The best way to navigate the Friend Zone is to AVOID the Friend Zone. Avoid it at all costs. Try to be an asshole right off the bat. If that’s not your style and you find that you’ve taken the wrong turn between douche bag and boyfriend, and aren’t sure if you’re circling the Zone; here are some tips. You’re not the Millennium Falcon, so you can’t treat it like its the Kessel run or an asteroid field that you can simply fly through to escape the Evil Empire. Also, avoid all references to Star Wars. Girls don’t like that shit.
If you’re flirting with the periphery, then you’re living on the edge. This is not a good place to be. The following topics of conversation should be avoided at all cost: her ex-boyfriend, your ex-girlfriend, places you use to go with either of them, and how much she does or doesn’t remind you of _____ - I mean, that’s kinda obvious. Stop yourself before you start talking about your total infatuation with Meg Ryan rom-coms or the movies Love Actually, My Best Friends Wedding and Beaches. Come on bro, seriously? Beaches? Bette Midler = Friend Zone. I don’t care if the movies are great, they should only know this stuff about you after you’ve had sex. Even then, from now on you hate romantic comedies and she definitely owes you something for putting you through two hours of the Meg Ryan walk, the Tom Hanks quirky face, Hugh Grant and his dry British self-deprecation, and again Bette Midler singing something about wind and wings and whatever. If you find yourself at the theater watching one on a first or second date; make a move in the first ten minutes. Really, you may already have screwed yourself.
If your lunch date turns into you and her in Nordstrom helping her pick out a nice pair of Jimmy Choos or a dress from BCBG, then you’re waist deep in the quicksand of the Friend Zone. You are NOT her shopping buddy. Don’t panic, you’ll only be sucked down quicker. Do Not resort to cheesy jokes like how that dress would look great at the foot of your bed. Try and shift your shopping trip to the lingerie section with hopes she’ll try on a bra and underwear for you. If she does, your number has been called and you are in the express lane out of the Friend Zone. If she’s not acknowledging your hints, then she’s giving you one. You’re done, Brochacho. After the mall you might as well hit the video store for some Julia Roberts and microwave popcorn.
If you are still not sure where you two stand, here are a few good indications that you’ve been relegated to this purgatory of relationships: a.) she hits on, hooks up with or sleeps with one of your friends, b.) uses you to attain (a), or c.) puts a combination of these words in a single sentence during conversation: you, my, friend. Example: “I’m so happy you are my friend.” Yeah, obvious. “I really want you to meet my friend, Jill.” Um, yeah you’re in the zone, but Jill might be cute. “Hey John, this is my friend Nino; oh by the way aren’t you going to take me to see the really cool painting above your bed tonight? Sweet! Bye Nino.” Sorry dude, you’re fucked.
Well, you tried to avoid it, but now you’re there. Once you find yourself in the Friend Zone, you should expect to be there for a while. This isn’t like getting stuffed in a locker when you were 3rd grade or being locked in the bathroom while your brother was slapping skins with the babysitter. Hope is something you have to hold onto at this point, not something you have an abundance of. A careful plan of escape takes time to conceive and execute. Even the most brilliant of plots needs a bit of luck. Movies to watch during this time would be, The Great Escape, Chicken Run, Escape from Alcatraz, and Superman 2. Yes, Superman 2. Your role model from now on should be General Zod.
You might find yourself living in denial. This is a normal reaction, but not a healthy one. If she talks to you about her period, you’re in the Friend Zone. If she’s asked you to buy her tampons or if you know her brand, you’re stuck. If she’s ever started a sentence, “I was taking a shit…”, sorry man. You might think you two are taking a big step if she asks you to go out dancing with her and the girls, but it’s not a step forward. You’ve just sealed your fate as their harmless, safe, non-sexual, non-threatening, non-existent while they are dancing with some guy, innocent, fun to be around, good listening, shoulder to cry on, comforting, I wish I had a boyfriend like you but not you, FRIEND.
Listen, sometimes you can’t fight these things. Chances are, if you’re in the zone now, you’ve been in the zone before. You might escape one day if she has epiphany in, who knows, 20 years. You could wear her down like Ali did Foreman. You’ll take a lot of body blows and each punch can sting worse than a thousand rejections in a crowded bar full of single chicks. Better yet, maybe you just accept it. Maybe you embrace it. After all, she’s got friends, and hopefully they aren’t your friends. Like, Jill.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Paris Burger - First Draft
When she left
I found myself ordering the
Paris Burger
at Bistro.
Paris use to be my second favorite city
in the world,
but the French stole my girlfriend
so fuck them
and their National soccer team
and if they are going to keep her
then I get the Bordeaux reds
and the fries
Hmmm, maybe those were already mine,
and maybe she wasn't.
Paris was always her dream
and I?
A moment in her reality.
Maybe its like that wife swap show.
Does that mean she dreams of
Me now?
I don't order the Paris Burger,
Anymore.
Not because I don't like the taste
or because I'm reminded.
I'm searching for a new
second favorite
San Francisco will always be
First.
Friday, March 28, 2008
Your Next Blog Post Sucks!
A lot of people have been asking me when my next blog post is going up. When I say a lot of people, I really mean all the voices in my head, of which there are quite a few including a condescending bastard who tells me at every turn how crappy a writer I am. I do my best not to listen to that piece of shit, but unfortunately he’s got the loudest voice and at times seems to be the most influential with the other voices; sometimes pulling a few of them to his side. I imagine he goes behind my back, or in this case into the depths of the back of my mind, to meet up with his little alliance to plot out my destruction. Me, I sit here in my consciousness unknowing, wondering when the strike will come. The 4 year old in me is like a little tattle tale and will crawl up and whisper in my ear, “they’re meeting now, the next attack is soon.” Does he work for them, or does he love me enough to stick by my side?
For me, writing is already a fight. I do my best writing at the office, and the battle with outside influences ranges from secretaries calling because the latest picture of their cat is too blurry to stretch on their wall paper and could I come over and do that “tile thingy”; to having to talk to the annoying lady with the voice that could make the deaf rejoice in their misfortune. I get calls from attorneys who still don’t know what “right click” means and who think burning a CD involves flames and a protective mask. I work within an IT group centralized in Chicago with 17 bosses and 2 people who actually have the password to login to all servers, and they still can’t pronounce my name let alone point to San Francisco on a map. They also think I’m lying when I say I take the cable car to work everyday. It could be because I tell them that it actually doesn’t stop and we have to jump off while its still moving and roll if necessary. “Knee and elbow pads,” I say “they are the best investment I’ve made so far.”
Writing at home could be just as bad, if not worse for me. Is it my fault that the residents of Cyrodiil call on me to save their lands from the darkness that has been unleashed upon them by the hidden evil of Oblivion? I can’t help it if while I am fighting this evil I end up taking on a quest to find a hidden treasure in a dungeon with a small army inside protecting their booty from me and my superior fighting skills. In the middle of all this I get a call from Mario asking me to assist in rescuing Princess Peach once again from the evil Bowser and his Goomba minions. “Mario, Goomba is not the preferred nomenclature.” And then of course there was that time my girlfriend walked in while I was naked playing Guitar Hero 3, which I guess does bring a whole new meaning to “Rock out with my cock out.” I know, its all very disgusting to think about. What can I say? I was hot and I wanted to rock.
It sucks when each sentence becomes a struggle between the voices cheering me on and those who have decided to start a their own protest down the avenue separating the two sides of my brain. “Your next blog post sucks, we don’t give a fuck!” chants resonate around my head. I can’t help but think that if they are voices in my head they could’ve at least been more creative with their half-assed chants. Sometimes it helps to close my eyes and let things play out in my mind. My conscious thought throws the first blow by tossing a Molotov cocktail into the front line of protesters, igniting a few of them and scattering the rest. I know it sounds a bit heavy handed, but I’ve been here before, and better me throw the first blow than have my favorite voices get taken out by a sniper camped out in the bell-towered church of my childhood. The thirty or so scattered by the flaming bottle, quickly whip out side arms and start plugging holes into my voices that had let out a large cheer when the first group went up in flames. The faces of encouragement on the sidelines turn to anger while the four year old stands close by not yet ready to reveal which side he is fighting for.
It's like the brutal fight scene in Anchorman, tridents flying through the air, personalities with swords on horseback, flaming arrows being launched from the hidden cover of my past lives, a banshee screams off in the distance, and Iron Maiden songs play simultaneously in all my voices heads. In the chaos I stand surveying the horrific slaughter, as voice after voice is silenced. The four year old remains ever so neutral, frolicking around the battle zone tossing banana peels in the air for the unsuspecting to slip on. He dances to his own tune, innocent to the carnage that surrounds him.
In the distance I see myself looking back at me. It's him. The discouraging voice, the leader of this army of dissenters. It's always him, each time I’m poised to burst out onto the page, he pulls the reigns of my waking thought into the realms of negativity. This doppelganger, this piece of me, now stands eye to eye with my minds eye. The flurry of screaming death stops around us and all join in watching as we stand face to face. Amidst my voices stand Mario, Luigi, Bowser, Samus, Sonic the Hedgehog, Link and Zelda. I stand in a ring within in a stadium full of characters I’ve grown up with. Ash from Evil Dead, Dalton from Road House, and Jack Burton fresh off the pork chop express are the trainers in my corner, while Sho Nuff, Cobra Commander, and that punk ass who stole my bike when I was 10 stand in his. Bobby Flay screams from his ringside seats, “Are you ready for a throw down?” The four year old kicks him in the shin and Yan Can Cook smacks him across the face with his Wok of Fury.
In the middle of the ring we are shoulder to shoulder, moving round and round like the Michael Jackson Beat It video. He’s got that red glow surrounding him burning into me as his arm touches mine. The punches come quickly, it is the assault of someone who is out of their mind. Each blow blocked brings confidence. This bully, this thing inside me that doesn’t want me to succeed, sees that I am not shaken by his flurry of fists. He is not the master, he knows it and so do I. With that thought, I take my turn and double fist him in the chest Neo style. On the ground he spits up negative statements like blood. He’s up and charging at me. I’m done with him, and with that I unleash an “Aruken” on his ass that would make Ken and Ryu proud. The fight is over. The four year old jumps in the ring, and in his best Smokey impersonation yells, “You got knocked the fuck out!”
Back at my computer, my eyes focus, it's time to write. Cheers can still be heard fresh from my victory. The victory is sweet, but the fight will find my doorstep another day. It always does. His voice is still in my ear, alone now, “Your next blog post sucks.” To that I say to him, “Honestly bro, I don’t give a fuck.” And, I really don’t, I just can’t wait to write it.
For me, writing is already a fight. I do my best writing at the office, and the battle with outside influences ranges from secretaries calling because the latest picture of their cat is too blurry to stretch on their wall paper and could I come over and do that “tile thingy”; to having to talk to the annoying lady with the voice that could make the deaf rejoice in their misfortune. I get calls from attorneys who still don’t know what “right click” means and who think burning a CD involves flames and a protective mask. I work within an IT group centralized in Chicago with 17 bosses and 2 people who actually have the password to login to all servers, and they still can’t pronounce my name let alone point to San Francisco on a map. They also think I’m lying when I say I take the cable car to work everyday. It could be because I tell them that it actually doesn’t stop and we have to jump off while its still moving and roll if necessary. “Knee and elbow pads,” I say “they are the best investment I’ve made so far.”
Writing at home could be just as bad, if not worse for me. Is it my fault that the residents of Cyrodiil call on me to save their lands from the darkness that has been unleashed upon them by the hidden evil of Oblivion? I can’t help it if while I am fighting this evil I end up taking on a quest to find a hidden treasure in a dungeon with a small army inside protecting their booty from me and my superior fighting skills. In the middle of all this I get a call from Mario asking me to assist in rescuing Princess Peach once again from the evil Bowser and his Goomba minions. “Mario, Goomba is not the preferred nomenclature.” And then of course there was that time my girlfriend walked in while I was naked playing Guitar Hero 3, which I guess does bring a whole new meaning to “Rock out with my cock out.” I know, its all very disgusting to think about. What can I say? I was hot and I wanted to rock.
It sucks when each sentence becomes a struggle between the voices cheering me on and those who have decided to start a their own protest down the avenue separating the two sides of my brain. “Your next blog post sucks, we don’t give a fuck!” chants resonate around my head. I can’t help but think that if they are voices in my head they could’ve at least been more creative with their half-assed chants. Sometimes it helps to close my eyes and let things play out in my mind. My conscious thought throws the first blow by tossing a Molotov cocktail into the front line of protesters, igniting a few of them and scattering the rest. I know it sounds a bit heavy handed, but I’ve been here before, and better me throw the first blow than have my favorite voices get taken out by a sniper camped out in the bell-towered church of my childhood. The thirty or so scattered by the flaming bottle, quickly whip out side arms and start plugging holes into my voices that had let out a large cheer when the first group went up in flames. The faces of encouragement on the sidelines turn to anger while the four year old stands close by not yet ready to reveal which side he is fighting for.
It's like the brutal fight scene in Anchorman, tridents flying through the air, personalities with swords on horseback, flaming arrows being launched from the hidden cover of my past lives, a banshee screams off in the distance, and Iron Maiden songs play simultaneously in all my voices heads. In the chaos I stand surveying the horrific slaughter, as voice after voice is silenced. The four year old remains ever so neutral, frolicking around the battle zone tossing banana peels in the air for the unsuspecting to slip on. He dances to his own tune, innocent to the carnage that surrounds him.
In the distance I see myself looking back at me. It's him. The discouraging voice, the leader of this army of dissenters. It's always him, each time I’m poised to burst out onto the page, he pulls the reigns of my waking thought into the realms of negativity. This doppelganger, this piece of me, now stands eye to eye with my minds eye. The flurry of screaming death stops around us and all join in watching as we stand face to face. Amidst my voices stand Mario, Luigi, Bowser, Samus, Sonic the Hedgehog, Link and Zelda. I stand in a ring within in a stadium full of characters I’ve grown up with. Ash from Evil Dead, Dalton from Road House, and Jack Burton fresh off the pork chop express are the trainers in my corner, while Sho Nuff, Cobra Commander, and that punk ass who stole my bike when I was 10 stand in his. Bobby Flay screams from his ringside seats, “Are you ready for a throw down?” The four year old kicks him in the shin and Yan Can Cook smacks him across the face with his Wok of Fury.
In the middle of the ring we are shoulder to shoulder, moving round and round like the Michael Jackson Beat It video. He’s got that red glow surrounding him burning into me as his arm touches mine. The punches come quickly, it is the assault of someone who is out of their mind. Each blow blocked brings confidence. This bully, this thing inside me that doesn’t want me to succeed, sees that I am not shaken by his flurry of fists. He is not the master, he knows it and so do I. With that thought, I take my turn and double fist him in the chest Neo style. On the ground he spits up negative statements like blood. He’s up and charging at me. I’m done with him, and with that I unleash an “Aruken” on his ass that would make Ken and Ryu proud. The fight is over. The four year old jumps in the ring, and in his best Smokey impersonation yells, “You got knocked the fuck out!”
Back at my computer, my eyes focus, it's time to write. Cheers can still be heard fresh from my victory. The victory is sweet, but the fight will find my doorstep another day. It always does. His voice is still in my ear, alone now, “Your next blog post sucks.” To that I say to him, “Honestly bro, I don’t give a fuck.” And, I really don’t, I just can’t wait to write it.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Closer
At night I use to lay in bed
Next to you
thinking
Wondering
Wishing
there was a way to get closer to you.
We tangle our legs
Use our toes like fingers
Clasping at feet
double wrap my arms around you
bury my face
in your streams of hair
I breathe you in
With all that I have
and I still wish to be closer
I awoke one morning
With the answer at hand
And while you were away
Off in dreamland
I snatched your undies
And one of your t-shirts
Squeezed into that top
Discovered thongs fucking hurt
Got myself dressed
And went off for the day
Wiggled and wormed my way
Through the morning
Picked and pulled
Through most of lunch
Finally relaxing
At a quarter past 2
And for a moment
I was right there with you
But I still wanted to be closer.
The very next day
I sprung into action
With you in the shower
Your gym clothes freshly used
I squeezed out the sweat
In your leftover tea from the night prior
With a few strands of your hair
Held together like wire
I stirred the contents up
Backwash and all
Sprinkled in some eye dust
Some lashes
And a clipped nail I found
Raised the cup up to God
And took the shot down!
Now, it wasn’t quite a tequila face I made
It wasn’t warm to core
It didn’t high five my heritage
I did not yearn for more
But
I felt something
And for a moment, I thought I was there,
But I still wanted to be closer.
Late that night while you were in your slumber
I shrank myself down to the size of a thought
Pranced around your pillow and
Dove in your ear.
I banged on the drum,
Shouted sweet nothings
until a secret door appeared
I ventured in
to a city of quick moving lights
there were large pools of memory
For my swimming delight
I bathed in both lakes of past
And the present
Rode down the slide
To the back of your mind
Planted some seeds
In Brain Stem Garden
Caught a double feature on the avenue of dreams
won an argument with the little voice in your head.
And danced the night away
To that song you kept singing
The very next day
And I have to say
I had a ball
But I still wanted to be closer.
Over the next week
I did some amazing things
Played hopscotch with your shadow
Colored pictures with your inner child
Buried myself in a grave of your socks
Went domino motherfucker all over your soul
Smoked weed with your conscience
Did stand up comedy at your funny bone
Played hide and seek with your natural scent
Put the smack down on your inner demons
Told ghost stores with your past lives
Performed card tricks for your third eye
sang 80s music atop your breasts
I wrote a complete unabridged dictionary based entirely upon you
and still I want to be closer.
At long last it hit me
There was nothing more I could do
You so wonderful
Amazing
I’m lucky to be this close to you
And so I laid down my head
I needed some well deserved rest
Removed your thong
And t-shirt
Snuggled up next to you
Pulled your arm over my chest
You woke up
Smiled
Kissed my cheek
I was so content
Fading
Vision hazy
Driting away
Until
I heard your voice calling
“Are you awake?”
Discombobulated but aware,
I slowly rolled over
And then you said
“Baby
Do you ever wish we could be closer?”
-(C) 2006
Next to you
thinking
Wondering
Wishing
there was a way to get closer to you.
We tangle our legs
Use our toes like fingers
Clasping at feet
double wrap my arms around you
bury my face
in your streams of hair
I breathe you in
With all that I have
and I still wish to be closer
I awoke one morning
With the answer at hand
And while you were away
Off in dreamland
I snatched your undies
And one of your t-shirts
Squeezed into that top
Discovered thongs fucking hurt
Got myself dressed
And went off for the day
Wiggled and wormed my way
Through the morning
Picked and pulled
Through most of lunch
Finally relaxing
At a quarter past 2
And for a moment
I was right there with you
But I still wanted to be closer.
The very next day
I sprung into action
With you in the shower
Your gym clothes freshly used
I squeezed out the sweat
In your leftover tea from the night prior
With a few strands of your hair
Held together like wire
I stirred the contents up
Backwash and all
Sprinkled in some eye dust
Some lashes
And a clipped nail I found
Raised the cup up to God
And took the shot down!
Now, it wasn’t quite a tequila face I made
It wasn’t warm to core
It didn’t high five my heritage
I did not yearn for more
But
I felt something
And for a moment, I thought I was there,
But I still wanted to be closer.
Late that night while you were in your slumber
I shrank myself down to the size of a thought
Pranced around your pillow and
Dove in your ear.
I banged on the drum,
Shouted sweet nothings
until a secret door appeared
I ventured in
to a city of quick moving lights
there were large pools of memory
For my swimming delight
I bathed in both lakes of past
And the present
Rode down the slide
To the back of your mind
Planted some seeds
In Brain Stem Garden
Caught a double feature on the avenue of dreams
won an argument with the little voice in your head.
And danced the night away
To that song you kept singing
The very next day
And I have to say
I had a ball
But I still wanted to be closer.
Over the next week
I did some amazing things
Played hopscotch with your shadow
Colored pictures with your inner child
Buried myself in a grave of your socks
Went domino motherfucker all over your soul
Smoked weed with your conscience
Did stand up comedy at your funny bone
Played hide and seek with your natural scent
Put the smack down on your inner demons
Told ghost stores with your past lives
Performed card tricks for your third eye
sang 80s music atop your breasts
I wrote a complete unabridged dictionary based entirely upon you
and still I want to be closer.
At long last it hit me
There was nothing more I could do
You so wonderful
Amazing
I’m lucky to be this close to you
And so I laid down my head
I needed some well deserved rest
Removed your thong
And t-shirt
Snuggled up next to you
Pulled your arm over my chest
You woke up
Smiled
Kissed my cheek
I was so content
Fading
Vision hazy
Driting away
Until
I heard your voice calling
“Are you awake?”
Discombobulated but aware,
I slowly rolled over
And then you said
“Baby
Do you ever wish we could be closer?”
-(C) 2006
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Tiny Gems in a Dirty Stinky World
Sometimes I wish I was the type of person who looked at each and everyday in life as a treasure hunt in the depths of the ocean of life. You read all the time about these people who say things like, “Treat everyday like its your last” or “Look at everyday as a clean slate where the sky is the limit.” I hear these things and I think to myself, man wouldn’t this be great?
Then my alarm goes off at 6:20 in the morning which prompts my right arm to seek out the damn wailing blackberry and snooze it 3 or 4 times before actually pulling my ass out of bed. The idea of waking up and treating a normal Wednesday like its an oyster with an undiscovered pearl flies out the door as I scratch my ass on my way to the bathroom, burn a few layers of skin off in the shower and search for clean underwear while watching Mornings on 2. Anyone who can find the pearl in riding on an overcrowded bus with at least 10 people in front of the yellow line has got to be considered for some type of new prize. Fuck Nobel, you try standing up close and personal with everyday work folk; legs, crotches and asses rubbing together while fresh armpits are exposed for all to pick out whether its Axe, Right Guard, or Secret pushing itself up their nostrils. God forbid someone let one rip while barreling down Union St, or even worse, while traveling up Union at the end of the day, when those same deodorants are fighting for first place in the long lasting category. Twelve hours of protection my ass, they’re all liars if you ask me. Take the 45 in San Francisco, and you become a connoisseur of scents while the normal 20 minute bus ride expands to about 40 minutes of “sorry if my bits are so close to your face every page you turn in that book you’re reading brings me closer to climax.”
I’ve searched every cube and office on our 2 and a quarter floors for that damn pearl as well. As the IT guy it gives me the perfect cover to say that I need to install some new software on a user’s computer or crawl under their desk to check wiring. I can be certain without a doubt that there are no pearls there either. There are other things though, like crumbs from lunches in keyboard cracks, finger lickin’ good grease on every key except maybe the Z, make-up buildup and earwax on phone earpieces, dried and flaked off skin scattered across the desk, popped zit stains and various smears all over monitors. Under desks I’ve seen car grease, mud, kitty liter, dog shit, spilled wine, clipped nails and beer stains. This elusive gem is not in the bathroom either, although the guy I seem to shit next to everyday probably isn’t convinced. The best thing about our shitting buddy relationship is that we both know the other washes their hands after doing our deeds, which is more than can be said for this nasty bunch of “professionals” I work with. Everyday can’t be a clean slate if you know that the guy whose computer you are working on doesn’t wash his hands after going poo.
Its hard to find that pearl in the mundane reality of the Monday thru Friday grind we all go through just to survive in this world. Is it really going to be in that copy job you did that took over an hour because for some reason the machine didn’t collate? Can you find it amongst the chicken scratch writing of the attorney you work for who needs to you type it out and file it in the next ten minutes? How many value meals does someone have sell in order to realize that streamers are not going to fall from the ceiling and Ronald McDeez is not going to come out and give you a 10 thousand dollar bonus just because you’re so keen at super sizing the meals for your clientele?
Maybe I’m looking in the wrong place. Maybe its not in the things you do on the daily, but rather in the things that get you through the day. Maybe it’s The Avalanches Since I Left You album playing on my way to work. Maybe its my morning latte, or the bowl of Life cereal I take for granted until I run out and have to buy more. Maybe its an email from my girlfriend telling me she misses me. Maybe its getting the chance to quote Ron Burgundy, Monty Python or the movie Clue during a work time conversation.
Its never just lemons you are handed, its stuffy disgusting bus rides, crusty keyboards, botched copy jobs, and unsanitary co-workers. Trying to make lemonade out of that is like shoving a bottle of rum and mint plant up my ass and hoping my breath smells like a mojito. Why search for just a pearl when there are so many other shiny gems to be had out there daily. That first sip from a can of Coke. Eating a warm krispy crème donut. Seeing someone get hit in the nuts on YouTube. Listening to a song over and over again because its that good. Right now mine is Reptilia. People limit themselves by searching for that one thing that makes them happy, when they should be enjoying all the other things that simply make them smile. I don’t think a clean slate or living each day like its your last has anything to do with it at all.
Mundane reality will always creep in to try and suck you down into a pit of misery, even if in the grand scheme of things your reality is not that bad. At least you’ve got a job to go to; and that bus ride, no matter how shitty, gets you there so you can survive another day. A friend told me a long time ago, “Don’t sweat the petty stuff, instead pet the sweaty stuff.” Now doesn’t that sound better than cleaning your slate or re-living your last day on earth or even searching for some tiny pearl in a bucket full of slimy oysters? Sure many times the petty crap in life gets on my nerves, but I’ll take the sweaty any day of the week.
Then my alarm goes off at 6:20 in the morning which prompts my right arm to seek out the damn wailing blackberry and snooze it 3 or 4 times before actually pulling my ass out of bed. The idea of waking up and treating a normal Wednesday like its an oyster with an undiscovered pearl flies out the door as I scratch my ass on my way to the bathroom, burn a few layers of skin off in the shower and search for clean underwear while watching Mornings on 2. Anyone who can find the pearl in riding on an overcrowded bus with at least 10 people in front of the yellow line has got to be considered for some type of new prize. Fuck Nobel, you try standing up close and personal with everyday work folk; legs, crotches and asses rubbing together while fresh armpits are exposed for all to pick out whether its Axe, Right Guard, or Secret pushing itself up their nostrils. God forbid someone let one rip while barreling down Union St, or even worse, while traveling up Union at the end of the day, when those same deodorants are fighting for first place in the long lasting category. Twelve hours of protection my ass, they’re all liars if you ask me. Take the 45 in San Francisco, and you become a connoisseur of scents while the normal 20 minute bus ride expands to about 40 minutes of “sorry if my bits are so close to your face every page you turn in that book you’re reading brings me closer to climax.”
I’ve searched every cube and office on our 2 and a quarter floors for that damn pearl as well. As the IT guy it gives me the perfect cover to say that I need to install some new software on a user’s computer or crawl under their desk to check wiring. I can be certain without a doubt that there are no pearls there either. There are other things though, like crumbs from lunches in keyboard cracks, finger lickin’ good grease on every key except maybe the Z, make-up buildup and earwax on phone earpieces, dried and flaked off skin scattered across the desk, popped zit stains and various smears all over monitors. Under desks I’ve seen car grease, mud, kitty liter, dog shit, spilled wine, clipped nails and beer stains. This elusive gem is not in the bathroom either, although the guy I seem to shit next to everyday probably isn’t convinced. The best thing about our shitting buddy relationship is that we both know the other washes their hands after doing our deeds, which is more than can be said for this nasty bunch of “professionals” I work with. Everyday can’t be a clean slate if you know that the guy whose computer you are working on doesn’t wash his hands after going poo.
Its hard to find that pearl in the mundane reality of the Monday thru Friday grind we all go through just to survive in this world. Is it really going to be in that copy job you did that took over an hour because for some reason the machine didn’t collate? Can you find it amongst the chicken scratch writing of the attorney you work for who needs to you type it out and file it in the next ten minutes? How many value meals does someone have sell in order to realize that streamers are not going to fall from the ceiling and Ronald McDeez is not going to come out and give you a 10 thousand dollar bonus just because you’re so keen at super sizing the meals for your clientele?
Maybe I’m looking in the wrong place. Maybe its not in the things you do on the daily, but rather in the things that get you through the day. Maybe it’s The Avalanches Since I Left You album playing on my way to work. Maybe its my morning latte, or the bowl of Life cereal I take for granted until I run out and have to buy more. Maybe its an email from my girlfriend telling me she misses me. Maybe its getting the chance to quote Ron Burgundy, Monty Python or the movie Clue during a work time conversation.
Its never just lemons you are handed, its stuffy disgusting bus rides, crusty keyboards, botched copy jobs, and unsanitary co-workers. Trying to make lemonade out of that is like shoving a bottle of rum and mint plant up my ass and hoping my breath smells like a mojito. Why search for just a pearl when there are so many other shiny gems to be had out there daily. That first sip from a can of Coke. Eating a warm krispy crème donut. Seeing someone get hit in the nuts on YouTube. Listening to a song over and over again because its that good. Right now mine is Reptilia. People limit themselves by searching for that one thing that makes them happy, when they should be enjoying all the other things that simply make them smile. I don’t think a clean slate or living each day like its your last has anything to do with it at all.
Mundane reality will always creep in to try and suck you down into a pit of misery, even if in the grand scheme of things your reality is not that bad. At least you’ve got a job to go to; and that bus ride, no matter how shitty, gets you there so you can survive another day. A friend told me a long time ago, “Don’t sweat the petty stuff, instead pet the sweaty stuff.” Now doesn’t that sound better than cleaning your slate or re-living your last day on earth or even searching for some tiny pearl in a bucket full of slimy oysters? Sure many times the petty crap in life gets on my nerves, but I’ll take the sweaty any day of the week.
Friday, January 4, 2008
I Got Wet Sock On The Way To Work
Coming into the office on a day like today really bums me out. Right now in San Francisco the rain is coming down so hard the streets are beginning to cry foul. Trees have decided today is the day to get back at all those cars who have smashed into their brothers and sisters along side freeways around America. The cross walk lights have decided to get a little extra time in the don’t walk position. My bus driver just laughed at me while I waited on the corner, soaked from head to toe, while he proceeded to play that game of, “door is opening, nope the door is closed.” I hate that game. Its like when you were a kid and your brother was old enough to drive and they would say, “go ahead, get in the car” and then move it just as you reach for the door handle. Fucking asshole.
Working on the 31st floor of a building that is made to withstand a large earthquake is both comforting and terrifying. This building creeks…A Lot. Stand next to the windows and you get the full effect of a building that is “supposed” to sway. Look outside at the not yet finished building across the way and you start to think life is beginning to treat you like a character in a Final Destination movie. A strap breaks, a cart moves towards the edge of the building and you think there is no way this will be good, but at least I am safe on the 31st floor of this marvel of engineering. And then the large crane along side the building shifts more than it normally does, definitely more than it has been since you’ve been keeping an eye on it. The crane is at least 10 floors higher than you are and it no longer looks too sturdy. So I’m sitting there troubleshooting an issue on a user’s machine, while watching the crane move around like a wibble wobbling but not falling down. I’m safe as I leave the office, except then the window washing gear was not fully secured atop the building and as I’m getting my morning bagel in the break room, sipping on a hot cup of joe, the contraption slides off the roof and crashes into the windows. I dive to save a lady from certain death, because that’s just me and I can react that fast to dangerous situations. She’s safe and everyone is running out of the room with their food, cause who really passes up free bagels and Peet’s coffee on Friday? I’m the last out and I’m thinking I’m gonna be alright, escaping death, but then a gust of wind blows the equipment back into the window, and a short bit of rope wraps around my ankle, as if possessed by the soul of the snake my brother, cousins, and I tormented with rocks 15 years ago. I get pulled out the window and dangled from 31 floors up before the un-natural wrap that seemed so tight on my ankle now loosens up and I fall to a very sad demise, most likely hitting metal beam after metal beam on the way down.
That would really suck and its unlikely to happen, but at least I wouldn’t have to suffer through a full day of wet sock like I am now. Wet sock is what I truly hate about rainy days. Its bad enough when it happens at home while doing the dishes, but when you’ve got to suffer through it for a whole day, its like the gods have decided its fuck with ME day. Its like each of them takes turns coming up with new ways to make a shitty day turn into a one of those ones you will remember for like at least 30 or 31 years. You tell your grandkids “Back when I was 32 and working in this huge steel marvel of a building, it rained so hard downtown San Francisco was under 3 feet of water, and I got wet sock trying to get to work. Wet sock was followed by wet pants and then wet boxers, until I was just soaked like a drippy dog thrown into a swimming pool.” And then the grandchild will look at his mother and say something like “Grandpa smells like old people and Scotch mommy.” So what’s really worse in that scenario, your 5 year old grandchild knowing what Scotch smells like, or knowing you have finally hit the stage where you are infected with that old person smell you use to hate when you were a kid? Well neither feeling is worse than your thick sopping sock clinging around your foot like a condom re-enforced with glue and a rubber band at the top.
Whatever happened to rainy day schedule? On the west coast its the closest we ever got to snow days. Recesses were cut, and lunch was shorter, but at least we got to go home early and change out of our little pants and shirts and, thank any of the gods to the high heavens, our disgusting socks. Why is it that as you get older all the good rules that seemed to make sense when you are kid suddenly have no meaning in your adult years? Its colder and wetter than an Orca in the Arctic and guess what you’ve got to work today. Your kids get out early and have to somehow get home in winds that blow harder than, well something that blows really hard with no sexual connotation whatsoever. But, you my friend are stuck in the office, building shaking, with a broken umbrella, two soaked feet wrapped in a thin layer of cotton or wool, trying to figure out “what the fuck am I going to get for lunch, and should I swim or wait for a canoe”, awaiting the 5 o’clock hour so you can start your longer than average commute in the ever so safe dark, cold, wet and windy night. I love work, don’t you?
Yes, today has become a day of sadness and regret. I’m sad because my socks are wet and even if they do dry, I’m going to have to at some point stick my feet back into shoes that have absorbed so much water, I could add soap and wash dishes with them. I’m also full of regret because a few years ago when living with my old roommate I thought it would be funny to spray the carpet outside his door with water and then call him out to the living room in the morning just so he’d get wet sock first thing after he’d gotten showered and dressed and ready for work. Dude, I’m sorry, that was a fucked up thing to do. Worse than when I’d put the song Barbie Girl on so loud you could hear it when you got out of the shower and I’d already left with my computer locked and the song playing on repeat. The gods have finally received your tributes and have taken their revenge seven fold. Please tell them to stop.
Working on the 31st floor of a building that is made to withstand a large earthquake is both comforting and terrifying. This building creeks…A Lot. Stand next to the windows and you get the full effect of a building that is “supposed” to sway. Look outside at the not yet finished building across the way and you start to think life is beginning to treat you like a character in a Final Destination movie. A strap breaks, a cart moves towards the edge of the building and you think there is no way this will be good, but at least I am safe on the 31st floor of this marvel of engineering. And then the large crane along side the building shifts more than it normally does, definitely more than it has been since you’ve been keeping an eye on it. The crane is at least 10 floors higher than you are and it no longer looks too sturdy. So I’m sitting there troubleshooting an issue on a user’s machine, while watching the crane move around like a wibble wobbling but not falling down. I’m safe as I leave the office, except then the window washing gear was not fully secured atop the building and as I’m getting my morning bagel in the break room, sipping on a hot cup of joe, the contraption slides off the roof and crashes into the windows. I dive to save a lady from certain death, because that’s just me and I can react that fast to dangerous situations. She’s safe and everyone is running out of the room with their food, cause who really passes up free bagels and Peet’s coffee on Friday? I’m the last out and I’m thinking I’m gonna be alright, escaping death, but then a gust of wind blows the equipment back into the window, and a short bit of rope wraps around my ankle, as if possessed by the soul of the snake my brother, cousins, and I tormented with rocks 15 years ago. I get pulled out the window and dangled from 31 floors up before the un-natural wrap that seemed so tight on my ankle now loosens up and I fall to a very sad demise, most likely hitting metal beam after metal beam on the way down.
That would really suck and its unlikely to happen, but at least I wouldn’t have to suffer through a full day of wet sock like I am now. Wet sock is what I truly hate about rainy days. Its bad enough when it happens at home while doing the dishes, but when you’ve got to suffer through it for a whole day, its like the gods have decided its fuck with ME day. Its like each of them takes turns coming up with new ways to make a shitty day turn into a one of those ones you will remember for like at least 30 or 31 years. You tell your grandkids “Back when I was 32 and working in this huge steel marvel of a building, it rained so hard downtown San Francisco was under 3 feet of water, and I got wet sock trying to get to work. Wet sock was followed by wet pants and then wet boxers, until I was just soaked like a drippy dog thrown into a swimming pool.” And then the grandchild will look at his mother and say something like “Grandpa smells like old people and Scotch mommy.” So what’s really worse in that scenario, your 5 year old grandchild knowing what Scotch smells like, or knowing you have finally hit the stage where you are infected with that old person smell you use to hate when you were a kid? Well neither feeling is worse than your thick sopping sock clinging around your foot like a condom re-enforced with glue and a rubber band at the top.
Whatever happened to rainy day schedule? On the west coast its the closest we ever got to snow days. Recesses were cut, and lunch was shorter, but at least we got to go home early and change out of our little pants and shirts and, thank any of the gods to the high heavens, our disgusting socks. Why is it that as you get older all the good rules that seemed to make sense when you are kid suddenly have no meaning in your adult years? Its colder and wetter than an Orca in the Arctic and guess what you’ve got to work today. Your kids get out early and have to somehow get home in winds that blow harder than, well something that blows really hard with no sexual connotation whatsoever. But, you my friend are stuck in the office, building shaking, with a broken umbrella, two soaked feet wrapped in a thin layer of cotton or wool, trying to figure out “what the fuck am I going to get for lunch, and should I swim or wait for a canoe”, awaiting the 5 o’clock hour so you can start your longer than average commute in the ever so safe dark, cold, wet and windy night. I love work, don’t you?
Yes, today has become a day of sadness and regret. I’m sad because my socks are wet and even if they do dry, I’m going to have to at some point stick my feet back into shoes that have absorbed so much water, I could add soap and wash dishes with them. I’m also full of regret because a few years ago when living with my old roommate I thought it would be funny to spray the carpet outside his door with water and then call him out to the living room in the morning just so he’d get wet sock first thing after he’d gotten showered and dressed and ready for work. Dude, I’m sorry, that was a fucked up thing to do. Worse than when I’d put the song Barbie Girl on so loud you could hear it when you got out of the shower and I’d already left with my computer locked and the song playing on repeat. The gods have finally received your tributes and have taken their revenge seven fold. Please tell them to stop.
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Love Is: A Poem inspired by the Love of Carl and Pilar Zuniga-Brown
Love is
Waking up in the morning
Next to that special someone
Looking into their eyes
Its morning breath
And scratching ass
And stale farts under the covers
And throwing all that out the window
For some morning
Smooches, snuggles and that other S-Word.
Love is
Text messaging
Thinking of u
Miss u
Luv u
Need you
Want you
Don’t forget
To buy toilet paper
Or soy milk
Or please pick up some tampons for me
Or we have dinner with so and so tonight
With the inevitable response
Why can’t we just be together and forget that dinner?
Love is
Short phone calls with kissing smacks
At the end
“you hang up”
“no, you hang up”
“I love you more”
“No, I love you more”
and throwing up in your mouth
just a little bit
when anyone but you does that.
Love is
Living with other people’s messes and quirks
Its loud burps
And vegan gas
And shower drain hair
And short and curlies on the toilet seat.
Its silly dances in underwear
Or nakedness
Your choice, we don’t judge.
Love is
Car singing
And not making too much fun
When they get the words wrong
Its listening to the music they like
Sometimes
And watching their shows
Sometimes
Love is
Learning to eat tofu
Or giving up pork
Even though it tastes so sweet
Its about trying new things
And liking some of them,
But respecting when your amor
Spits it out or makes that face
And says,
“I’ve tried it and I just don’t like eggplant.”
Love is
Friendship and family
Its introducing them
To your dirty uncle
Your ex-con cousin
Your drunkard friends
Or your over protective roommates
Its acceptance of all of them
As long as they are supportive
Of the Love you two share.
Love is
Changing the things you can and want to
About yourself
Without changing who you are.
Its about taking
The good, the bad, the ugly
The beautiful, the nasty, the sweet
And wrapping it all up
With recycled paper of course
And exchanging that gift
Its give and take
Surprises and all
Its embracing each other
Its laying it out on the table and saying,
“Love Me,
As much as I Love You.”
Waking up in the morning
Next to that special someone
Looking into their eyes
Its morning breath
And scratching ass
And stale farts under the covers
And throwing all that out the window
For some morning
Smooches, snuggles and that other S-Word.
Love is
Text messaging
Thinking of u
Miss u
Luv u
Need you
Want you
Don’t forget
To buy toilet paper
Or soy milk
Or please pick up some tampons for me
Or we have dinner with so and so tonight
With the inevitable response
Why can’t we just be together and forget that dinner?
Love is
Short phone calls with kissing smacks
At the end
“you hang up”
“no, you hang up”
“I love you more”
“No, I love you more”
and throwing up in your mouth
just a little bit
when anyone but you does that.
Love is
Living with other people’s messes and quirks
Its loud burps
And vegan gas
And shower drain hair
And short and curlies on the toilet seat.
Its silly dances in underwear
Or nakedness
Your choice, we don’t judge.
Love is
Car singing
And not making too much fun
When they get the words wrong
Its listening to the music they like
Sometimes
And watching their shows
Sometimes
Love is
Learning to eat tofu
Or giving up pork
Even though it tastes so sweet
Its about trying new things
And liking some of them,
But respecting when your amor
Spits it out or makes that face
And says,
“I’ve tried it and I just don’t like eggplant.”
Love is
Friendship and family
Its introducing them
To your dirty uncle
Your ex-con cousin
Your drunkard friends
Or your over protective roommates
Its acceptance of all of them
As long as they are supportive
Of the Love you two share.
Love is
Changing the things you can and want to
About yourself
Without changing who you are.
Its about taking
The good, the bad, the ugly
The beautiful, the nasty, the sweet
And wrapping it all up
With recycled paper of course
And exchanging that gift
Its give and take
Surprises and all
Its embracing each other
Its laying it out on the table and saying,
“Love Me,
As much as I Love You.”
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Zombie Poetry
Left foot, Right foot
One, two,
one, two
Slowly moving,
Coming for you
My thought process is simple
My steps,
counting one, long two number chain
All I can think of
All that I want
Are your sweet, juicy, tender Brains.
I’ll take what I can get
One bite from your leg
Arm or thigh
Most anything will satisfy
foot, neck, hand,
Finger, toe,
Arm-pit,
naughty bits
I can’t be having any
Fake tits,
and botoxed faces
give me the fits.
But what I really want
What makes my thoughtless head
And lifeless body
Tingle with delight
Is a taste
A morsel
A single serving of
Of that power source
For your idea light.
Its really pointless to run
Even more so to hide
Me and my kind
Can smell your fear
Taste it on the tips of our tongues
Hear the shortness of your breath
you try not to make a sound
but you are bound
to slip up
make one false move
and then DUDE
We Got You!
Like the first drink
from a fresh cold can of Coke
Bite number one is by far the best
Brain juice dripping down from chin
To chest.
Your requests
And cries fall on deaf ears
We feel no pity for tears
Our minds hear a continual Britney Spears
Chorus
Gimme gimme more
Gimme more
Oops, I did it again
I just killed your friend
And ate all their Braaaaaaains
Give me some more Brains tonight!
Sure we’re easy to take out
One shot to the head
Our mouths no longer shout
“BRAINS, BRAINS!”
But please refrain from getting all cocky
Did you watch the movies?
They don’t turn out like Rocky
No longer Happy Days
Cause Joni killed Chachi
It really brings a new meaning to
Getting some head.
Before I take a bite,
I have to ask
what’s worse?
Being undead
Or being dead.
Time of my unlife
Is all I can say
There’s nothing more enjoyable
than some sweet, juicy, tender, wonderful
BRAINS!
One, two,
one, two
Slowly moving,
Coming for you
My thought process is simple
My steps,
counting one, long two number chain
All I can think of
All that I want
Are your sweet, juicy, tender Brains.
I’ll take what I can get
One bite from your leg
Arm or thigh
Most anything will satisfy
foot, neck, hand,
Finger, toe,
Arm-pit,
naughty bits
I can’t be having any
Fake tits,
and botoxed faces
give me the fits.
But what I really want
What makes my thoughtless head
And lifeless body
Tingle with delight
Is a taste
A morsel
A single serving of
Of that power source
For your idea light.
Its really pointless to run
Even more so to hide
Me and my kind
Can smell your fear
Taste it on the tips of our tongues
Hear the shortness of your breath
you try not to make a sound
but you are bound
to slip up
make one false move
and then DUDE
We Got You!
Like the first drink
from a fresh cold can of Coke
Bite number one is by far the best
Brain juice dripping down from chin
To chest.
Your requests
And cries fall on deaf ears
We feel no pity for tears
Our minds hear a continual Britney Spears
Chorus
Gimme gimme more
Gimme more
Oops, I did it again
I just killed your friend
And ate all their Braaaaaaains
Give me some more Brains tonight!
Sure we’re easy to take out
One shot to the head
Our mouths no longer shout
“BRAINS, BRAINS!”
But please refrain from getting all cocky
Did you watch the movies?
They don’t turn out like Rocky
No longer Happy Days
Cause Joni killed Chachi
It really brings a new meaning to
Getting some head.
Before I take a bite,
I have to ask
what’s worse?
Being undead
Or being dead.
Time of my unlife
Is all I can say
There’s nothing more enjoyable
than some sweet, juicy, tender, wonderful
BRAINS!
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Poem - Bran Muffin Blues (To Be Read To The Johnny Cash Tune "Cocaine Blues"
I woke up this morning
Jumped right outta bed
I downed a cup of coffee
And off to work I fled
I didn’t have breakfast
Cause I was running late
I bought a bran muffin
And got in by 8.
Logged on my computer
And I felt fine
I drank another coffee
In two minutes time
I opened my big mouth
And shoved that whole muffin down
My stomach let out a rumble
And I began to frown.
So there I was just sitting
Sweat covered my brow
On my face implanted
A permanent scowl.
I looked around to see
If there was someone near by
And when the coast was clear
I let a fart slip on the sly.
Oh wait a look of worry
Spread across my face
A foul stench took over
My entire work space
A sense of panic hit me
Oh God what did I do
I’d sharted in my pants
legs felt warm of fresh poo poo
I got up in a hurry
But knew I couldn’t run
I ass-clenched-walked to the toilet
To clean up what I’d done
My tummy flipped and rolled
Like a gymnast on the tumbling floor
I thanked God Almighty
For getting me in the bathroom door.
Once inside with a quickness
I pulled down my pants
My ass touched the seat
Before it began to rant
It gave a lofty sermon
It seemingly did not tire
I screamed out Halleluiah
And sang with the choir.
People walked in
And then they walked out
The pungent fumes deterred them
There was no doubt
I imagined the toilets rejoicing
down to the first floor
Mine said, it was its best shit
Since 1984.
I balled up my poor undies
And cleaned myself up
Wiped 20 times, flushed
The toilet got stuck.
The water began to rise
And I was out the door
I looked back in time to see
My shit hit the floor.
In my cube, IMed my boss
“I’m feeling very ill”
He said I should go home
And take some Vick’s DayQuil
I was out the door and back home
Quick as a roadrunner
Received another message
From my tail gunner.
There’s a lesson here
For all of you
If you’re in this type of plight
You’ll know what to do
Keep some clean undies
At work in your cube
And pray you’re not struck
With those Bran Muffin Blues.
Jumped right outta bed
I downed a cup of coffee
And off to work I fled
I didn’t have breakfast
Cause I was running late
I bought a bran muffin
And got in by 8.
Logged on my computer
And I felt fine
I drank another coffee
In two minutes time
I opened my big mouth
And shoved that whole muffin down
My stomach let out a rumble
And I began to frown.
So there I was just sitting
Sweat covered my brow
On my face implanted
A permanent scowl.
I looked around to see
If there was someone near by
And when the coast was clear
I let a fart slip on the sly.
Oh wait a look of worry
Spread across my face
A foul stench took over
My entire work space
A sense of panic hit me
Oh God what did I do
I’d sharted in my pants
legs felt warm of fresh poo poo
I got up in a hurry
But knew I couldn’t run
I ass-clenched-walked to the toilet
To clean up what I’d done
My tummy flipped and rolled
Like a gymnast on the tumbling floor
I thanked God Almighty
For getting me in the bathroom door.
Once inside with a quickness
I pulled down my pants
My ass touched the seat
Before it began to rant
It gave a lofty sermon
It seemingly did not tire
I screamed out Halleluiah
And sang with the choir.
People walked in
And then they walked out
The pungent fumes deterred them
There was no doubt
I imagined the toilets rejoicing
down to the first floor
Mine said, it was its best shit
Since 1984.
I balled up my poor undies
And cleaned myself up
Wiped 20 times, flushed
The toilet got stuck.
The water began to rise
And I was out the door
I looked back in time to see
My shit hit the floor.
In my cube, IMed my boss
“I’m feeling very ill”
He said I should go home
And take some Vick’s DayQuil
I was out the door and back home
Quick as a roadrunner
Received another message
From my tail gunner.
There’s a lesson here
For all of you
If you’re in this type of plight
You’ll know what to do
Keep some clean undies
At work in your cube
And pray you’re not struck
With those Bran Muffin Blues.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Poem - For You (To all those who feel sacrifice is the best way to show love)
For you
I’d give up
the little things that make life right
sweet tart candy
pixy sticks
rocky road ice cream
and Mexican style pinto beans
con arroz
y pollo
I’d leave behind
those fat bowls of Menudo
with just enough lemon and onion
and never again
would I drink Chocolate Abuelita.
I’d just flat out give up
all those sweet things
I had as a kid
Reeses Pieces candy
no liftin the lid
to grab those extra cookies
to dip in milk
and no more
lucky charms cereal
with purple horseshoes.
Giving up all this
would give me the blues,
but at least I’d have you.
And if that ain’t enough
I’d give up Hip-Hop
and ya don’t stop there
cause you know how I love
the WU
and its true that for you,
Dre
would never again play on my radio
No mo’
Cypress hill
bushwick bill
of the GZA’s killa hill
cause with you
I’d have no need for the
sugar hill, wu-tang, busta rhyming, tribe
that called for the quest to keep hip-hop real
and make no big deal about it
after this
I’d get down on one knee
climb the tallest tree
even allow myself
to be stung by a killer bee
for you.
And if you still wanted more
I’d go out to the corner store
and buy you flowers
shower you with kisses
and hugs
even join the “say no to drugs” campaign
and not complain at all
I’d be there to catch you when you fall
and call you
honey bear and baby doll
and still more
I’d drop to the floor
and scrub it till it shines.
Dear
for you
I’d give up watching movies
you know that’s a sacrifice
but to kick it with you
would be hella tight
ain’t gonna make it
a blockbuster night
no more Star Wars, James Bond, Godfather
gangster flicks
blacksploitation films
The Mack turning tricks
No more cool
clean DeNiro
Al Pacino trying to be Latino
Japanese animation
or Nightmare Before X-mas
claymation
I’d sell my videos and VCR
give my TV to the goodwill store
and never again
watch anything new
even if it’s a movie by
The Killer director
John Woo.
Baby,
I can do one more thing
my friendships have gone
into the familia ring
but in a couple
there is only Two
So, for you
I’d even stop
hanging out with
my entire crew…
WHOA there,
I’d have to say
giving up all that
would destroy may ways.
I’m afraid of bees,
I hate climbing trees,
I’d rather be stricken by disease
than give up hip-hop
and movies
I could never just leave
all my homies
PLEASE understand
Love you I do
I’ll always remain true
even act like a fool
WOOOO HAAAAh!
ya got me in check
but please
wait a sec.
I love you for you
hope the same goes for me
I’ll still get down on that knee
play with a dog infested with fleas
even sing old songs
written by the Bee-Gees
but change my whole life
I could never do
not even for you
I wouldn’t be myself
you wouldn’t be loving me.
Yeah
I’ve been shot
with cupid’s arrow of love
you and me
we fit like hand and glove
so come on
let’s forget ‘bout
that potion of sacrifice
and get those
Mexican pinto beans
with chicken and rice.
-(C) 1998
I’d give up
the little things that make life right
sweet tart candy
pixy sticks
rocky road ice cream
and Mexican style pinto beans
con arroz
y pollo
I’d leave behind
those fat bowls of Menudo
with just enough lemon and onion
and never again
would I drink Chocolate Abuelita.
I’d just flat out give up
all those sweet things
I had as a kid
Reeses Pieces candy
no liftin the lid
to grab those extra cookies
to dip in milk
and no more
lucky charms cereal
with purple horseshoes.
Giving up all this
would give me the blues,
but at least I’d have you.
And if that ain’t enough
I’d give up Hip-Hop
and ya don’t stop there
cause you know how I love
the WU
and its true that for you,
Dre
would never again play on my radio
No mo’
Cypress hill
bushwick bill
of the GZA’s killa hill
cause with you
I’d have no need for the
sugar hill, wu-tang, busta rhyming, tribe
that called for the quest to keep hip-hop real
and make no big deal about it
after this
I’d get down on one knee
climb the tallest tree
even allow myself
to be stung by a killer bee
for you.
And if you still wanted more
I’d go out to the corner store
and buy you flowers
shower you with kisses
and hugs
even join the “say no to drugs” campaign
and not complain at all
I’d be there to catch you when you fall
and call you
honey bear and baby doll
and still more
I’d drop to the floor
and scrub it till it shines.
Dear
for you
I’d give up watching movies
you know that’s a sacrifice
but to kick it with you
would be hella tight
ain’t gonna make it
a blockbuster night
no more Star Wars, James Bond, Godfather
gangster flicks
blacksploitation films
The Mack turning tricks
No more cool
clean DeNiro
Al Pacino trying to be Latino
Japanese animation
or Nightmare Before X-mas
claymation
I’d sell my videos and VCR
give my TV to the goodwill store
and never again
watch anything new
even if it’s a movie by
The Killer director
John Woo.
Baby,
I can do one more thing
my friendships have gone
into the familia ring
but in a couple
there is only Two
So, for you
I’d even stop
hanging out with
my entire crew…
WHOA there,
I’d have to say
giving up all that
would destroy may ways.
I’m afraid of bees,
I hate climbing trees,
I’d rather be stricken by disease
than give up hip-hop
and movies
I could never just leave
all my homies
PLEASE understand
Love you I do
I’ll always remain true
even act like a fool
WOOOO HAAAAh!
ya got me in check
but please
wait a sec.
I love you for you
hope the same goes for me
I’ll still get down on that knee
play with a dog infested with fleas
even sing old songs
written by the Bee-Gees
but change my whole life
I could never do
not even for you
I wouldn’t be myself
you wouldn’t be loving me.
Yeah
I’ve been shot
with cupid’s arrow of love
you and me
we fit like hand and glove
so come on
let’s forget ‘bout
that potion of sacrifice
and get those
Mexican pinto beans
with chicken and rice.
-(C) 1998
Monday, November 19, 2007
The Boomtown Rats Ruined My Day
Last night at around 10:45 my wonderful weekend faded into the distance and my mind travelled to the dark place. That’s actually later than usual, because normally the dark place comes to find me at a much earlier hour. When I closed my eyes and drifted off, I saw the path clearly marked. The road is always a tricky one because each fork in the path leads to the same place, like level 8-4 in Super Mario Bros. I think that’s the one where you’ve got to remember the pattern, middle, top, and then bottom whilst dodging the fiery traps to get to Bowser. I wish I could have taken that left at Albuquerque on my way to Pismo Beach, but instead I could only keep moving straight ahead until I was faced with the inevitable. Monday!
I hate Mondays. I always have. I’m pretty sure when I was like 3 my mom taught me that “Hate” was a strong word, one we should never use and I may have said, “But Mommy I fucking Hate Mondays.” Somewhere deep down she hated them also, and so she probably stuck the bar of soap in my mouth for only 5 minutes because of my usage of the F-word. Later on I bet she told my dad and he probably said, “The kid learns fast, lets start him on his multiplication tables tomorrow.”
I can think of a plethora of things I’d rather do instead of dragging my ass out of bed after the alarm goes off the requisite 4 snooze button presses Monday mornings. I’d rather sit in the Oakland DMV waiting room Tuesday thru Thursday than have to get up on a Monday morning to go to work. I’d volunteer to clean up the electrocuted rats in the Bay Area BART stations if I could get a few Mondays off. I’d pick the peanuts out of Shrek’s shit for a month if I could have every Monday off in a calendar year.
Whoever thought of Monday should be shot. I’m sure they are probably already in the grave, but I’d dig up the bones and shoot them anyway.
Nothing goes right for me on Mondays, especially in the morning. I get up late. The shower water is cold, or the asshole upstairs decides to wash his cat and I get second degree burns all over my body. The baby downstairs cries from the moment my alarm goes off until the second I leave the building, and then probably falls back asleep. My quick morning session of Guitar Hero ends in failure. I run late to work all morning long, but then catch a bus that gets me there a full ten minutes before I can even fathom stepping foot in the door. The music on my IPod during shuffle pulls up songs like, “Kill yourself” by S.O.D. or Pearl Jam’s “Indifference”. Sometimes I swear it plays Yanni just to spite me. I don’t even own Yanni! This morning, as if my IPod knew I was in a miserable state, walking from the bus stop trying to think of anything other than going to work, I am treated to the Boomtown Rats “I Don’t Like Mondays”. This song alone is enough to make you want to go Postal on a busy street corner during rush hour.
Sometimes I wish Vizzini would travel to my house and challenge me to a duel of wits on Sunday night. I’d take the iocaine power and down that shit before he could say “INCONCEIVABLE”. I’d glue a sixth finger on my right hand and tell Inigo his father was only marginally good at making swords. There have been Sunday nights where I wish I could bitch slap the albino guard in the Pit of Despair and hook myself up to the life sucking machine. “NOT TO 50!” Of course Miracle Max would find me and I’d probably owe him like 10 bucks, or I’d have to fix his computer and he’d make me eat that chocolate cube. There I would be, up working on his computer on Monday morning while he ate his MLT - mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, “where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe.”
I’m sure by saying all this, the Devil is probably listening, hoping I find my way down to his abyss of hot, evil, sorrow. I’m sure he’s preparing a special Monday chamber for me to dance in during eternal damnation. I’ll bet he’s got his favorite sales people, attorneys, and admin assistants at the ready to call the helpdesk line at the word “Go” once I arrive. “My computer won’t turn on.” “Windows is broken.” “I can’t get this picture of my cat to show up as my desktop wallpaper.” To him I will say this, “Hit me with your best shot you horn faced prick. I’ve survived 32 years of Mondays so far. I can take it.”
I hate Mondays. I always have. I’m pretty sure when I was like 3 my mom taught me that “Hate” was a strong word, one we should never use and I may have said, “But Mommy I fucking Hate Mondays.” Somewhere deep down she hated them also, and so she probably stuck the bar of soap in my mouth for only 5 minutes because of my usage of the F-word. Later on I bet she told my dad and he probably said, “The kid learns fast, lets start him on his multiplication tables tomorrow.”
I can think of a plethora of things I’d rather do instead of dragging my ass out of bed after the alarm goes off the requisite 4 snooze button presses Monday mornings. I’d rather sit in the Oakland DMV waiting room Tuesday thru Thursday than have to get up on a Monday morning to go to work. I’d volunteer to clean up the electrocuted rats in the Bay Area BART stations if I could get a few Mondays off. I’d pick the peanuts out of Shrek’s shit for a month if I could have every Monday off in a calendar year.
Whoever thought of Monday should be shot. I’m sure they are probably already in the grave, but I’d dig up the bones and shoot them anyway.
Nothing goes right for me on Mondays, especially in the morning. I get up late. The shower water is cold, or the asshole upstairs decides to wash his cat and I get second degree burns all over my body. The baby downstairs cries from the moment my alarm goes off until the second I leave the building, and then probably falls back asleep. My quick morning session of Guitar Hero ends in failure. I run late to work all morning long, but then catch a bus that gets me there a full ten minutes before I can even fathom stepping foot in the door. The music on my IPod during shuffle pulls up songs like, “Kill yourself” by S.O.D. or Pearl Jam’s “Indifference”. Sometimes I swear it plays Yanni just to spite me. I don’t even own Yanni! This morning, as if my IPod knew I was in a miserable state, walking from the bus stop trying to think of anything other than going to work, I am treated to the Boomtown Rats “I Don’t Like Mondays”. This song alone is enough to make you want to go Postal on a busy street corner during rush hour.
Sometimes I wish Vizzini would travel to my house and challenge me to a duel of wits on Sunday night. I’d take the iocaine power and down that shit before he could say “INCONCEIVABLE”. I’d glue a sixth finger on my right hand and tell Inigo his father was only marginally good at making swords. There have been Sunday nights where I wish I could bitch slap the albino guard in the Pit of Despair and hook myself up to the life sucking machine. “NOT TO 50!” Of course Miracle Max would find me and I’d probably owe him like 10 bucks, or I’d have to fix his computer and he’d make me eat that chocolate cube. There I would be, up working on his computer on Monday morning while he ate his MLT - mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, “where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe.”
I’m sure by saying all this, the Devil is probably listening, hoping I find my way down to his abyss of hot, evil, sorrow. I’m sure he’s preparing a special Monday chamber for me to dance in during eternal damnation. I’ll bet he’s got his favorite sales people, attorneys, and admin assistants at the ready to call the helpdesk line at the word “Go” once I arrive. “My computer won’t turn on.” “Windows is broken.” “I can’t get this picture of my cat to show up as my desktop wallpaper.” To him I will say this, “Hit me with your best shot you horn faced prick. I’ve survived 32 years of Mondays so far. I can take it.”
Thursday, November 15, 2007
A Letter To The Kid Who Stole My Bike In Front Of 7/11 When I Was 10 Years Old
You mother-fu…
No, I’m not going to start like that. I want to, but I’m not going to start by calling you a bunch of names laced with profanity. Instead I want you to imagine a little relatively brown Mexican boy waking up at 7:30 in the morning every Saturday and Sunday doing his chores early just so he could ride his bike around our neighborhood. You remember it, I’m sure you do; cookie cutter houses, green lawns, picket fences, small dogs barking as you ride by. It was safe, it was comfortable, and it was home. My bike and I went everywhere together for like two years. I was the KING of that small housing tract in Oxnard until YOU came along, you and your sticky fingers, and your urge to take what was not yours.
Not a day goes by that I don’t think about what you did to me so many years ago. How dare you? I was ten you son-of-a-bitch! There I go again, your mom has little to do with this. Well she has some to do with it; she had you, she raised you, she put you out in this world just so you could break the heart of a little brown boy who probably lived down the street from you. I’d say she has plenty to do with it, but she doesn’t deserve to be called a bitch, so tell her I’m sorry.
Back to you, MY bike, and the crushed heart of a ten year old who did not know the evils of this world. What a great way to find out that there are bad people out there. I went into 7/11 for maybe 5 minutes to buy some candy, Fun-Dips if I remember correctly, and to play a video game. NO, at the time I did not have a Nintendo for you to steal, so I had to save up my quarters from picking up dog shit in the back yard for weeks on end just so I could play a few minutes of Black Tiger. After my two minute game, I turned to leave and OH, MY BIKE IS GONE. Do you have any idea what that feels like? Have you ever had a best friend? Did they get ripped away from you, like a bully would steal Halloween candy from a SOBBING 6 year old? That is nothing compared to the loss I felt that day. I cried more then than when my dog died a few years later. You Bastard!!!
A few years ago, my car was broken into out in front of a bar the night I was going to see Coldplay. I was taking a girl to the concert that night, and I had to ride around with a shattered window on a cold night in San Francisco. And yet, all I could think about was you and how you probably laughed. Laughed all the way home on that bike, laughed with your friends the next day when they asked you where you got it. You probably laughed as you rode it to the Carl’s Jr. across the street from the scene of the crime to get your Western Bacon Cheeseburger, or to Baskin Robbins down the street for some bubble-gum ice cream. Maybe you took it to the park by Blackstock Middle School, or maybe to Centerpoint Mall when you bought the new Metallica tape. That’s what I did, and would have done for years after, except I couldn’t because your GREEDY ASS couldn’t resist being a thieving Jerkface Johnson.
For a long time I wished horrible things upon you. Back then I wished that the fleas of a thousand camels would infest your armpits. Crude as it was, that would have been the nicest of thoughts that went through my mind for you. I never wanted death, because I was a nice boy who knew that would be wrong to wish death on someone. I did however wish that you would bite into a taco from Taco Bell on Saviers Rd. and find half a roach, legs still wiggling, antenna tickling the back of your throat as you swallowed. There was a time I hoped you’d gotten uncontrollable diarrhea in class while you were sitting next to a girl you really liked. Shit juice trickling down your leg. Maybe you’d get pantsed in front of your gym class or get a hard-on in the showers and all the guys would point and laugh.
I don’t know where you are now, and I don’t care. I still think about you, and maybe you are doing poorly. I don’t hope for it, but if you are then that sucks for you and I would not feel sorrow. If you are doing well, then congrats maybe you turned your life around and hopefully you aren’t some thieving punk at some large corporation taking money from the have-nots to pad your numerous bank accounts. I could wish the same distraught feelings you caused me on your offspring; maybe then you would know what it was like for me, having to hear my dad explain how "these things happen" and "its all a part of life." No, I won’t do that, I won’t wish that. My original wish still stands and maybe one day you will wake up to disgustingly smelly itchy pits and a feeling in your stomach that the young kid whom you tormented that one day so many years ago finally got his revenge.
Til then just know that I still think about you and I shall have it one day. One day.
No, I’m not going to start like that. I want to, but I’m not going to start by calling you a bunch of names laced with profanity. Instead I want you to imagine a little relatively brown Mexican boy waking up at 7:30 in the morning every Saturday and Sunday doing his chores early just so he could ride his bike around our neighborhood. You remember it, I’m sure you do; cookie cutter houses, green lawns, picket fences, small dogs barking as you ride by. It was safe, it was comfortable, and it was home. My bike and I went everywhere together for like two years. I was the KING of that small housing tract in Oxnard until YOU came along, you and your sticky fingers, and your urge to take what was not yours.
Not a day goes by that I don’t think about what you did to me so many years ago. How dare you? I was ten you son-of-a-bitch! There I go again, your mom has little to do with this. Well she has some to do with it; she had you, she raised you, she put you out in this world just so you could break the heart of a little brown boy who probably lived down the street from you. I’d say she has plenty to do with it, but she doesn’t deserve to be called a bitch, so tell her I’m sorry.
Back to you, MY bike, and the crushed heart of a ten year old who did not know the evils of this world. What a great way to find out that there are bad people out there. I went into 7/11 for maybe 5 minutes to buy some candy, Fun-Dips if I remember correctly, and to play a video game. NO, at the time I did not have a Nintendo for you to steal, so I had to save up my quarters from picking up dog shit in the back yard for weeks on end just so I could play a few minutes of Black Tiger. After my two minute game, I turned to leave and OH, MY BIKE IS GONE. Do you have any idea what that feels like? Have you ever had a best friend? Did they get ripped away from you, like a bully would steal Halloween candy from a SOBBING 6 year old? That is nothing compared to the loss I felt that day. I cried more then than when my dog died a few years later. You Bastard!!!
A few years ago, my car was broken into out in front of a bar the night I was going to see Coldplay. I was taking a girl to the concert that night, and I had to ride around with a shattered window on a cold night in San Francisco. And yet, all I could think about was you and how you probably laughed. Laughed all the way home on that bike, laughed with your friends the next day when they asked you where you got it. You probably laughed as you rode it to the Carl’s Jr. across the street from the scene of the crime to get your Western Bacon Cheeseburger, or to Baskin Robbins down the street for some bubble-gum ice cream. Maybe you took it to the park by Blackstock Middle School, or maybe to Centerpoint Mall when you bought the new Metallica tape. That’s what I did, and would have done for years after, except I couldn’t because your GREEDY ASS couldn’t resist being a thieving Jerkface Johnson.
For a long time I wished horrible things upon you. Back then I wished that the fleas of a thousand camels would infest your armpits. Crude as it was, that would have been the nicest of thoughts that went through my mind for you. I never wanted death, because I was a nice boy who knew that would be wrong to wish death on someone. I did however wish that you would bite into a taco from Taco Bell on Saviers Rd. and find half a roach, legs still wiggling, antenna tickling the back of your throat as you swallowed. There was a time I hoped you’d gotten uncontrollable diarrhea in class while you were sitting next to a girl you really liked. Shit juice trickling down your leg. Maybe you’d get pantsed in front of your gym class or get a hard-on in the showers and all the guys would point and laugh.
I don’t know where you are now, and I don’t care. I still think about you, and maybe you are doing poorly. I don’t hope for it, but if you are then that sucks for you and I would not feel sorrow. If you are doing well, then congrats maybe you turned your life around and hopefully you aren’t some thieving punk at some large corporation taking money from the have-nots to pad your numerous bank accounts. I could wish the same distraught feelings you caused me on your offspring; maybe then you would know what it was like for me, having to hear my dad explain how "these things happen" and "its all a part of life." No, I won’t do that, I won’t wish that. My original wish still stands and maybe one day you will wake up to disgustingly smelly itchy pits and a feeling in your stomach that the young kid whom you tormented that one day so many years ago finally got his revenge.
Til then just know that I still think about you and I shall have it one day. One day.
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